I’ll be honest, I’ve never been a huge fan of the bouquet toss tradition. Sure, it’s meant to be lighthearted and fun, a playful way to see who’s “next in line” for marriage. But in reality? It can sometimes feel more awkward than exciting.
At its best, it’s a bit of entertainment for your guests.
At its worst... it’s stressful, a little aggressive, and the older your guest list gets, the more uncomfortable it can become.
At my own wedding, we decided to skip both the bouquet toss and the garter removal. There were only a couple of single guests, and honestly, I’m not exactly known for my throwing skills, I could already picture the bouquet landing in the cake (talk about a disaster!).
And the garter thing? Just no. I personally would’ve been way too embarrassed to have that moment play out in front of everyone.
If you’re debating whether to include the bouquet toss, my advice is simple: read the room.
If your crowd is full of single friends who’d love the moment, go for it and have fun! Just maybe ditch the whole garter routine and have your groom toss a spare one he’s got tucked in his pocket. But if it doesn’t feel like “you,” skip it guilt-free.
Fun Alternatives to the Bouquet Toss 💐
If you still want a memorable moment without the awkwardness, here are some ideas:
1. The Anniversary Dance
Invite all the couples onto the dance floor. Then, every 30 seconds, have your DJ or MC announce milestones:
“Stay on the dance floor if you’ve been together for more than 5 years... 8 years... 15 years…”
By the end, you’ll be left with the longest-married couple in the room, and they get your bouquet. It’s sweet, emotional, and your guests will love it.
2. A Raffle or Game
Host a fun contest, maybe a dance-off, trivia question, or mini-raffle. The winner gets your bouquet! This works perfectly if you have a lively, competitive crowd.
3. A Gift from the Heart
Instead of tossing it, simply choose someone meaningful, a parent, grandparent, or close friend, and gift them your bouquet as a thank-you for being part of your day. It’s heartfelt, unexpected, and something they’ll never forget.
Whatever you do, please, don’t single out your only unmarried friend and force them to catch the flowers. I’m begging you. 😂
Traditions are lovely, but your wedding should feel like you. So if the bouquet toss doesn’t fit your vibe, skip it. There are plenty of other ways to make the moment just as special.
